I Want Half
Monday 8:30 pm I leave my parttime job. Get in my car and check my cell phone . I see a missed call from Philly Live. I call him Back " What up . Philly Live " Yoooooooo SON!!!!! What the fuck is going on with YO BLOG!!!!!! 41 comments in one day from some bullshit !!!! Son you need to shut this shit DOWN!!!!! Tell these muthafucka 's you gone fall back, focus on yo lady, and get back on track with whats important. Fade to BLACK!!!!! Like Jay Z!!!! Then!!! Take a 2 week break and come back with some NEW SHIT!! THEY'LL LOVE YO ASS !!!!! hahaha. I'm laughing I respond " You have waaay to much free time to come up with that shit !!! he starts laughing " Whatever "
I say " So whats poppin. Did you come to nyc this weekend? " Philly Live " Yeeeaah Son my presence was requested by you know who" I respond " You put it any work? " Philly Live " Naaaw. I was a gentlemen the whole weekend " I say " You telling me you came all the way to NYC to play footsy. What part of the game is that ? " Philly Live responds " The part you know nothing about . I play chess not checkers nigga " Thats code for he likes ole girl and doesn't want to ruin the honeymoon period with his wack love making skills. I say " Aiight loser"
Philly Live says " Slish. Let me ask you a question. Do you think Chivalry is dead? I start laughing " Why would you be asking me a question like that. You still eat with your hands" Philly Live " Fuck you. Listen. This weekend i'm walking with ole girl. I was on the right side of her then she crosses in front of me so that i'm on the left. I ask her why she did that. She says its proper etiquette to walk on the left side when walking with a lady. So I ask her what purpose does that serve other than if a car jumps the curb its gonna hit me before it hits her !!!! " I start laughing he continues " Slish. W omen be on some real bullshit when it comes to what a brotha should or shouldn't do when it comes to dating etiquette. Slish you open car doors for women? I respond "Only until I pull those panties to the side after that she's on her own . " Philly Live says " Shiiiiit I get into the car first, reach over to the other side, push that shit open and say GET IN!!!!! I laughed so hard I almost hit a truck .
Philly Live " Check this out Slish. Women are selfish creatures and it says so in the bible" I respond . "Where !!!!! " Philly Live " The Adam and Eve story. God distinctly told the both of them not to eat any of the apples from the garden of eden. What does Eve do!!! She up and eats one of the apples. Now she knows her ass is in trouble but instead of taking the HEAT by her damn self!!! She gets Adam to take a bite of the same apple so she wouldn't burn in Hell alone !!!!! My car swerves again cause I can't stop laughing . I respond " Where do you come up with this shit ? Philly Live " Women do shit like that to us all the time. Get themselves into all kinds of bullshit and wait for us to either take the fall with them or shovel them out.
Now Philly Live has a point. Peep Game( Taken from The Roycester) Man makes six figure income. He meets a woman who makes good money but not as much as him. They get married and decide to start a family. Both of them agree the wife should stop working since his salary can provide for the entire household. Which she quickly does. Now wifey is home . Shouldn't she be managing and paying the bills on time? HELL NO!!!! Ms stay at home has been living the high life keeping up with the Jones. Credit cards are maxed, Bills are over a month LATE!!! and the whole time Mr six figure is clueless. Cause all he cares about is that his wife still looks good in her thong. What happens next. Wife is away visiting family thinking she's covered her tracks. Husband picks up the mail and discovers a FORCLOSURE NOTICE for his house. ALLLLLL HELLLL BREAKS LOOOSE and they end up on Oprah!!!!
This is how I feel . When a man and woman get together it shoudn't matter who makes more or less because someone is always going to make more. What does matter is how the couple approaches it. For example Brotha's if your lady makes waaaay more money than you do. No way in HELL!!!! should you be paying half of the bills WHY?? cause at the end of the day you will be left with no money for yourself. Split the bills in percentages if she makes more she pays the larger bills like the mortgage, rent, car note etc . Now this goes for the fella's too If your making waaay more money than your lady the same rules should apply.
Ofcourse I broke this scenario down to Philly Live and he disagreed. He said " FUCK THAT I WANT HALF EEDDDIIIEEE !!!!
So what do you guys think .
I say " So whats poppin. Did you come to nyc this weekend? " Philly Live " Yeeeaah Son my presence was requested by you know who" I respond " You put it any work? " Philly Live " Naaaw. I was a gentlemen the whole weekend " I say " You telling me you came all the way to NYC to play footsy. What part of the game is that ? " Philly Live responds " The part you know nothing about . I play chess not checkers nigga " Thats code for he likes ole girl and doesn't want to ruin the honeymoon period with his wack love making skills. I say " Aiight loser"
Philly Live says " Slish. Let me ask you a question. Do you think Chivalry is dead? I start laughing " Why would you be asking me a question like that. You still eat with your hands" Philly Live " Fuck you. Listen. This weekend i'm walking with ole girl. I was on the right side of her then she crosses in front of me so that i'm on the left. I ask her why she did that. She says its proper etiquette to walk on the left side when walking with a lady. So I ask her what purpose does that serve other than if a car jumps the curb its gonna hit me before it hits her !!!! " I start laughing he continues " Slish. W omen be on some real bullshit when it comes to what a brotha should or shouldn't do when it comes to dating etiquette. Slish you open car doors for women? I respond "Only until I pull those panties to the side after that she's on her own . " Philly Live says " Shiiiiit I get into the car first, reach over to the other side, push that shit open and say GET IN!!!!! I laughed so hard I almost hit a truck .
Philly Live " Check this out Slish. Women are selfish creatures and it says so in the bible" I respond . "Where !!!!! " Philly Live " The Adam and Eve story. God distinctly told the both of them not to eat any of the apples from the garden of eden. What does Eve do!!! She up and eats one of the apples. Now she knows her ass is in trouble but instead of taking the HEAT by her damn self!!! She gets Adam to take a bite of the same apple so she wouldn't burn in Hell alone !!!!! My car swerves again cause I can't stop laughing . I respond " Where do you come up with this shit ? Philly Live " Women do shit like that to us all the time. Get themselves into all kinds of bullshit and wait for us to either take the fall with them or shovel them out.
Now Philly Live has a point. Peep Game( Taken from The Roycester) Man makes six figure income. He meets a woman who makes good money but not as much as him. They get married and decide to start a family. Both of them agree the wife should stop working since his salary can provide for the entire household. Which she quickly does. Now wifey is home . Shouldn't she be managing and paying the bills on time? HELL NO!!!! Ms stay at home has been living the high life keeping up with the Jones. Credit cards are maxed, Bills are over a month LATE!!! and the whole time Mr six figure is clueless. Cause all he cares about is that his wife still looks good in her thong. What happens next. Wife is away visiting family thinking she's covered her tracks. Husband picks up the mail and discovers a FORCLOSURE NOTICE for his house. ALLLLLL HELLLL BREAKS LOOOSE and they end up on Oprah!!!!
This is how I feel . When a man and woman get together it shoudn't matter who makes more or less because someone is always going to make more. What does matter is how the couple approaches it. For example Brotha's if your lady makes waaaay more money than you do. No way in HELL!!!! should you be paying half of the bills WHY?? cause at the end of the day you will be left with no money for yourself. Split the bills in percentages if she makes more she pays the larger bills like the mortgage, rent, car note etc . Now this goes for the fella's too If your making waaay more money than your lady the same rules should apply.
Ofcourse I broke this scenario down to Philly Live and he disagreed. He said " FUCK THAT I WANT HALF EEDDDIIIEEE !!!!
So what do you guys think .
posted by Mr.Slish at
5/23/2006 07:30:00 PM
55 Comments:
...I don't like it!
Your theory is shit.
Also, what does your bullshit theory have to do with chivalry being dead or not?
...*you just up and pulled your post as a chivalrous move...to not only to your girl but to all your many fans here on the blog*...
You talk some shit...but I KNOW you a softee.
eht tnega has left the building
I think it's great that Philly acted like a gentleman when visiting ole girl. Why is it that he had to "hit it"???? Is ole girl like a drive by. Everyone doesn't have to hit and run.... is that what you do? Maybe ole girl is a respectable young lady who is not going to stand for that crap. More guys should be like Philly.
Also, I agree with eht tnega.... what does money making have to do with chilvary being dead.... I was a little lost there.
You are a funny dude. I can't believe you said that dumb shit cause you know you play that gentleman role. Your boy Philly is taking the right approach with ole girl. Any why you all up in Philly's business you need to be working your shit out with Barneys. Stop being so nosey!!!!!
1- like eht tnega and phoenix said (by the way how the hell do you pronounce eht tnega?), money has nothing to do with chilvary...or does it? Unless he pays the bills JUST BECAUSE he is the man of the house.
2- Phillylive you should know better...all men from up top know they are suppose to walk near the curb when walking with a woman. I'm from Philly too, so I know how you Philly men get down. But, I like that you acted like a gentlemen with your lady friend (LOL!). Trust and know, she appreciated it!!!
@ agent 99 I wasn't the one who said chivalry was dead Philly Did. I was just listening.
@ anon read the comment above
@ Phoenix aaw shut it up. You wish someone had their noise up in yo business....lol
@ Baby Bear Chivalry is dead. Women no longer need men the way they used to. Waaaaay back in the day before any of us bloggers were even born. Women didn't have to work. Men worked and women took care of the home. Now that the game has changed women no longer have the time or the energy to cater to a mans needs the way they used to therefore Causing men to be less courteous, honorable, and gallant towards our sistas.
Now the money part was just me going off on a tangent..I rant and rave sometimes..lol
So your saying because "we" didn't do our "part"...then "y'all" don't do your part?
Da fuck kinda ass backwards shit is that...
Chivalry isn't about...you scratch my back I scratch yours...it's about doing what you know is right and about honoring a woman...cherishing.
Chivalry by definition means...
The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.
I like your street philosophy but...your argument doesn't apply to this particular subject...so stop leading Phillylive astray.
Chivalry better not be dead, because an old fashioned girl like me is in big big trouble!
There's not much that turns me on the way that chivalry does, good old door opening, walking on the outside, evening paying the tab. All of that shows that me that a man is comfortable being a man, and allows me to be a woman...soft and vulnerable!
If a man shows me this side of him, he has a much better chance of getting to know me in the Biblical sense.
Women that act like men don't want a man, so let's not get us all confused. Men are good for much more than just paying bills, but in order to be a boss, they gots to act like a boss, not play the herb and still expect to be respected!
thoughts from a cali girl!
@ Agent Please read this post again..Where in there am I leading Philly Live astray. I asked him a question he answered it.I made fun of him...Thats it..
Now your scratch my back and i scratch yours philosophy can't work if only one person is doing the scratching. Point Blank!!!! Mens backs been itching a whoooole lot more lately...
@ Ms Ahmad. Chivalry is dead or damn near on its way. Check this out. A majority of the young brotha's coming up are from single parent households. No Daddies around to show them how they should treat a woman. What do they have? Videos and they're ass backwards homeboys showing them all the wroooong shit. This was bound to happen sooner or later. Women under 30 I feel sorry for yo asses
"Mens backs have been itching a whole lot more lately"...? Maybe that's because they left our asses itching for years! LOL So now we scratch our own backs and like it!
Seriously, I too appreciate a man who is chivalrous. It makes me want to be even more feminine. It also makes me feel like I am protected and safe because he is taking care of me (not financially, just being attentive to my needs and to me).
I agree, men (boys) these days don't have a clue and the sad part is that the young girls don't expect more. They ae okay with the guy who calls them out there name, who man handles them and think that is love (or that shows that they are a man). I have an 11 year old daughter and let me tell you, the boy who walks up in my house with that will catch HELL! I make it known to my daughter that she should expect to be treated like a lady and with respect and she should carry herself in such a way to only attract those who have a clue what that is!
i don't think have the man out her even know the the word chivalry means. if i met a guy and he is a gentleman by opening the car door, pickin up the tab, havin a evening planned based on what he likes and what he has pick up through convo that i like, walkin on the side of me that is closer to the street, ringin the bell when he picks me up, it makes me want to be women back to him. it make me feel special. the prob is negro do it in the begin to impress. i want some to do it only if it's their nature and they will be consistant. it not STOP the Front!
i don't think have the man out her even know the the word chivalry means. if i met a guy and he is a gentleman by opening the car door, pickin up the tab, havin a evening planned based on what he likes and what he has pick up through convo that i like, walkin on the side of me that is closer to the street, ringin the bell when he picks me up, it makes me want to be women back to him. it make me feel special. the prob is negro do it in the begin to impress. i want some to do it only if it's their nature and they will be consistant. it not STOP the Front!
The problem with the majority of men today is this...Men do not realize that chivalry is synonymous with romance. It was never a rule to walk on the outside of your lady, you did it to make her feel protected….It was never a rule to open a door or pull out a chair, you did it to be respectful…..It was never a rule to pay a tab or offer to take your lady out, you did it because you want her to fully enjoy the experience. In today’s society too many men are forgetting (or never learned) about romance. All we see in hip hop videos and all we hear lyrically are men wanting to “hit it”. Even some women have lowered their standards of not being respected like the Queens they are, therefore the men treat them with the same degradation. For those women who look to be treated with the utmost respect, and look for a brother who is chivalrous, I applaud you for not lowering your standards.
For the so-called hardcore wannabe thugs “keeping it real” by not exhibiting chivalry as a means of reverence and romance, you will never find a true Queen who will reciprocate your good graces, you’ll just continue to be embroiled in failed relationships and unsuccessful unions based on semi-adolescent standards. But hey if that’s you, good luck with that.
For the ladies out there looking for the ballas to pay their rent, car note, utility bills, et al…. Don’t talk to us about chivalry; what you really want is not a true mate, romance, or a partner, but an easier way to live your lavish lifestyle without having to work for it like everyone else. What you don’t realize however is that in obtaining that lifestyle, you are giving up your own individuality. You have now become a “kept woman” whether you like it or not. But hey if that’s you, good luck with that.
Let’s bring the romance back people… Turn off the hip hop for a while and listen to some real love songs.
Just my opinion, and like everyone else, yes I do have one.
Peace, Blessings, & GrantLove
@ Ondrea your right about black men leaving the sista's behind. Its time we all just put our backs together and stop the itching completely. Hope your daughters generation figures it out...
@ Sweetness Most men don't know what chivalry is. To them its played out. Once they get the pussy all that nice guy shit is out the window. When the truth is Brothas should never stop courting their ladies. Women need it the same way men need sex and silence !!!...lol
@ Grantlove
I think my buddy has said it all...No need for me to comment anymore..lol
Standing ovation for GrantLove...nuff said!!!
One!
@ Grantlove - I'm in love with you! Very beautifully said.
@ Grantlove - YOU BETTA PREACH!!!
This was too funny....as far as the whole bill paying thing goes I'm not too sure. It should be discussed with whoever you are living with...my mom at one point made more money than my dad but because she worked from home she made sure all the bills were paid....they had a joint account so I don't think there was a percentage thing going on....but to each his own.
I went on a date a couple months back and dude walked on the inside of the curb and had me on the outside by the puddles and the dirt. First I got pissed at him, but then I realized this cat was young and fatherless. Then I got mad at myself for going on a date where I had to walk at all...dude didnt have a car, either.
Chivalry dies right after you have sex (or give head) the first time. So if a dude is acting like an a$$hole BEFORE or ON the first date DROP HIM LIKE ITS HOT! It will only get worse from there, ladies!
...sorry FullyLive!!!
@ Honey Libra be sure when the time comes, cause finances are one of the reasons couples break up
@ Chez What I tell you about hanging out on college campuses looking for new meat..lol
BIG APPLAUSE to Grantlove, BIG APPLAUSE. You got it brotha!
I am loving it Grantlove. You hit the nail on the head.
Ironically enough, I was having this conversation with a certain young lady that I have been getting to know better. We both totally agree with you. It's the only way it makes sense.
@Slish-You shut up!!! LOL
...just a thought. Maybe FullyLive was being a real gentleman, meaning maybe he 'hit it' and didnt tell you...
:-P
@GrantLove-I dont mean to come off as the angry Black b*tch in the group. But I AM angry. I dont understand why everybody has switched over to selfish mode. I mean what has happened to basic consideration, common curtesy?
Ive never been kept. No one has enough money to keep me quiet that long. I dont expect a dude to pay for my rent, my lightbill, my phone bill(s). If I live alone, I cover me. However, I do expect my dude to cover our dates, condoms, our food, our alcohol, our travel, his own gas, his own laundry, his own rental car...all of which Ive been asked/expected to cover...especially in Boston.
Its nice to have a dude open the car door and help me on with my coat. But what I really need is for a dude to treat me like a HUMAN BEING. Dont ask me to do anything you wouldnt want some other dude asking your sister/mom to do.
And until they learn that they will be coming deep out of their pockets for what could have easily been handled with a foot rub.
Hoes be on some ol' Capital One shit. "What's In Your Wallet?"
No, bitch, what's in yours?
I was married to a chick that made goo-gobs more than I did. I still paid all the bills and she shitted on me when we split anyway.
I was paying a settlement to a broad who made 50K more than I did for actions she took to make her financial situation worse.
Do I sound bitter? I hope so, 'cuz I am!
KZ
@ zed dayuuuuum AFRICAN!!!! have you ever written that story ?
chivalry and chauvinism are a double edge sword.
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Your blog is hella fresh too.
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Nope, it's a story that goes better unwritten. I'm still sore from the assfucking.
KZ
This is a good one! Personally for me, I love chivalry. It is just a great way way to show consideration.
I co-sign with grantlove to the 10th power!
@ zed on the real I think you should right that story...Might take the sting away..
@ Model minority.You're right about that shit...
@ Paula D as long you give it back to the fella
@ R mack Don't be like me. I was a monster at your age. Always be a gentlemen you'll get it back ten fold...
Dane I just tripped over the mic that Grantlove dropped! Grantlove, how 'bout putting that in an email so that can reach hundreds of ppl.
nope nu uh...ain't no way busta is gonna be posted at the crib and not putting in half!!! Check this out.... we should each have a seprate savings and checking. PLUS a joint savings and checking. He living on half, he sleeping on half, he crapping on half he betta be putting in half. PERIOD. Add up the bills, split it down the middle and he betta have his half coming in direct deposit. Don't give me that crap about whoever makes more should do the big bills crap cause I ain't buying it. I have always made more than my SO but that doesn't mean I should foot more of the bills. LEt's face it, whether he pays half with me or a whole by himself, he still gotta pay for a little things like IONKnow...food and shelter (insert blank stare) that is a crock and you know it....BOOOOOOO....cause men have been slacking and women have HAD to handle their bidness now we should be penalized (i.e. made to wear the pants in the house just cause we make more) Nah...that is why you don't let your spouse know what chu got. puu-Re-iod. (intentional phonetic spelling)
i like Mz New Agenda..bottom line is you gotta pay the cost to be the boss...if I'm paying, I'm bossing and most men can't handle that so they are better off just trying to man up!
I wasn't going to chime in on this post but its very clear that chivalry is dead. Comments like
"COST TO BE THE BOSS" by MISS AHMAD is exactly why courting, dating, and marriages are fucked up. Like KNOCKOUT ZED SAID "HOES BE ON SOME CAPITAL ONE SHIT.
Now, deep down inside I know all women aren't like this but the reality is most of them are. So why should a nigga open a car door or pull chair out so you she can sit down? Why should a nigga walk down the sidewalk closest to the curb and risk his life? FOR WHO? FOR WHAT?
SHIT!! I'm looking for a REAL WOMAN??? And my definition of a "REAL WOMAN" is a woman who knows her position. Knows what role to play, how to play it and when to play it. Knows how to step up and/or fall back. Its not about how much you make, what kinda of car you drive or the clothes you wear. All that shit is superficial and that's not love. Thus, you have all these people running around chasing their tails and looking for some shit they will never find which is "LOVE". ROMANCE AND FINANCE DON"T MIX!!
@ Grantlove and Chezniki where yall been hiding??
@ Model Minority.. I like that quote about Chivalry Chavinism being a double edge sword.
@ Slish... Nigga you did it again.. You got poeple thinking
HOLLA AT YOUR BOY CUZ PHILLY HAS LEFT THE BUILDING!! 1
@ Phillylive - see that right there is what I'm talking about...when men don't want to do it ANYWAY they try to flip the script and be like "Duh I wuz gonna hold da doo' for ya but you just about the paper" when the two aren't even in the same game. (blank stare) Because men have forgotten or were never taught how to treat a lady right, we are down for the paper chase because we won't let him take advantage of us to make up for his 'short' comings uh yeah ok. Bottom line, if you were gonna open the door, you would have, regardless the number of zeros in my check, in spite of my insistance that we go half on it. That right der...is da truf....and you don't wanna hear it cause you can't handle da druf *drops da mic* two fingers playa
@MzNewAgenda... Your name alone speaks volumes... But might consider changing it to MZ Hidden Agenda cuz because that might be more appropriate... Like I said Romance @ Finance don't mix. Its not about who pays the bills yo.. But on some real shit... I always handle my business so don't get it twisted up in here. Love is Love...
@ Phillylive ...you think you know ...but you have no idea...My new agenda = more love + (more enlightenment - Bull$hit) * (understanding + communication - drama) squared.
I have no hidden agenda and am not chasing anyone else's paper cause at the end of the day...guess what...I got my own. Because I have my own does that mean I don't want the simplier things in life. nope...Because I have my own does that mean I don't want flowers just because nope. Because I have my own, does that mean I won't let a man be a man and lead the house...not at all cause as long as that man is following God, then I will be following him.
Romance and Finance don't mix when you don't have the same goals/dreams and aspirations for the relationship.
@ Mz new agenda @Ms Ahmad
For Years Men have made more than their spouses and have maintaned the Househould. But like everything else in the universe we've evolved.
Women now make just as much or more money than their male counterparts. Why should he pay half if she makes way more.
Now we all know a woman will definetly want to live a certain lifestyle due to her finacial status. If she's making 100 grand a year she's gonna spend 99 of it keeping up with the Jones. Why should her male counterpart have to suffer because he makes less. If she wants the big house The Smiths have LET HER ASS PAY FOR IT !!! Men are simple creatures we don't need all that extra shit .
I'm with you Philly !!!!!
@ slish - I somewhat agree but check this...I got the house I wanted on my own no one else needed to help me qualify so while yeah I can afford it by myself and I had it well before I met my SO ...but if he is laying up in the crib enjoying the surroundings, living in the house then he should pay half. And if that house isn't the house he wants (say they are looking for a house) then he knows how to say NO. Men like to live just as well as we do...you say that you guys are simple but I disagree. While you may not spend as much on housing, you will spend it on that depreciable asset you call a car...having it on 22s etc. and you will indulge in the latest video game, electronics and looking good. so we both spend it's just that the priorities are different.
blah blah blah sticking my tongue out at ya...lol
@ MzNewAgenda.. HAHAHA.. I like your word play but I'm not fascinated by it. Cuz if need be, I'll reach in my bag of tricks and pull a rabbit out the hat. Your words are just a smoke screen but I can see through the bullshit right to your heart.
You probably grew up in a half way decesnt house. Went to college or something and graduated. Landed a half decent job and now your independent with this I don't need a man attitude. Still, you probably got a man anyway who will probably never stand or measure up to you mentally, physically or financially. Bet you tell your girlfriends that you wear the pants in the house don't you???
HMMMM.. See page 28 in the Blackman's guide on how to understand the Blackwoman. Your style is sloppy. How can you grow with a man if you can't respect a man for who or what he is.. Your dollars will never make cents. Put the money and attitude in your back pocket and save it for later.. Matter fact just update your formulas because there wack.
Whoever makes the most should pay the most. It's no point for the lesser salaried individual to struggle. Society places those contraints on the "male role." Being a provider doesn't make you a man. Money doesn't make you a man. Having money makes you a provider.
@Fully-I can see both sides of this argument, but you have to understand this scenario from the Ladies' point of view. Back when the men usually made more than the women, they lorded it over us, using their money as control over us, instead of something to uplift us. Now that ladies have a little something, many men become resentful, jealious, lazy or abusive in an attempt to sabotage our success...not really understanding that our (womens') success is our success (us as a race). When a woman is educated, well-paid, well rested, etc her whole family benefits.
Refusing to work, refusing to cover household bills, refusing to have sex, refusing have good sex, cheating with chickenheads, refusing to watch their own children, refusing to pay for child care, ("you wanna work so bad you pay the babysitter, B*tch") are all ways that "Brothers" shoot themselves in the foot trying to prove that he is "the Man" of the family by tearing his woman down financially.
As a woman, if this happens to you or your family members enough times, you take steps to make sure it doesnt happen again by: Splitting the household bills halfway, making sure all the household bills are in one location so you both can read them, having your own separate bank account with direct deposit, making him watch the kids if he is out of work (this will save money on day care and encourage him to return to work faster).
MsNew is just talking about protecting herself, something I think professional women have to do. You men like to feel useful and you like a challenge...the same way we shouldnt have sex with you on the first date, we shouldnt let a dude move in without a ring and/or enough regular, legal money to cover half the household bills. Ladies: Make him work for it and he will stay.
Fellas: Come high or dont come at all.
@ Philly - so I guess I am supposed to be ashamed of my upper middle class upbringing huh? I'm supposed to be mad 'cause you think you have me pegged. Wrong bro. I have no problem relinquishing my independent title to someone WORTHY. As a matter of fact, D is worthy and I have given him the reigns. I would never be condecending to my man. I don't tell my girls NADA cause it's none of their business. But just because I'm not a hood rat or I have some cheese for my crackers you think I am just some silver-spoon-college-educated-stuck-up-materialistic-condecending-chiken-headed-trick. Well, I'm not....But I refuse to take care of a grown ass man. Yes I have a man and I love him...I also allow him to be a man....
Chivalry is dead and woman have killed it. End of story.
Chivalry is dead.
Some men do not know what it is to be a man. Being a Man, does not mean "My Bank," but a provider yes! I feel that a man that allows you to pay for waaaaaaayyyyy... too much emasculates them. They are no longer the provider, doer,"Man."
And to quote Slish... Sometimes men need to feel needed.
Once a women learns to live a certain lifestyle and make a certain amount of money over her counter part, she rather front the bill then not do at all. That is just a life style. It's not a matter of what you make. But her doing what makes her happy, and "her" money allows for. In spite of.
When and Inso a women makes more then her SO, it is not her responsibility to take on more of the outings or bills. It is a means for him to better himself and make more changes to get to where she is at. Motivation. If I can do it you can to.
If I buy that house, It's my house! If you live it in, then you pay bills.
Having separate accounts is essential. Having a communal account that accounts for all of the bills down the 1/2 is only fair despite the gross earnings for mutual expenses.
In partnership it a half. Not 2/3 versus 1/4th (my math may suck) LOL ... but you get the gist. Once we spend what we gotta on what "we have" and all is covered. What's mine is mine and what you do with you make or have is your biz......
Prenups!
@ MzNewAgenda... Your word play is impeccable but not as great as mine. Cuz see I don't have time nor do I get confused or lost with your well spoken, highly educated, sophicated mind. Its just too complicated but I guess you just don't or won't understand. MzNewAgenda, Hidden Agenda, I'm still not a fan. Cuz I read what you said and figured out how think. We can go back and forth, with these words and I still won't blink. I luv you. I love your fire. I love the passion in which you speak. But I'm a man, a REAL MAN, college educated / street...
Holla....
@Fully + MzNew-GET A ROOM!!!
:-P
LOL @ Chezniki
@ Philly - You love to hate me --Smooches to you Boo cause I like a man that will stand up for his...West Philly for life 55th and Malcolm ;-) see while I may have had a silver spoon Mz New got some street too
@ Chezniki... I'm just having fun right about now... Its all luv..
@ MzNew... Wow, its a small world.. We are so close but yet so far.. I grew up on 55th & Elliott... But you know how Philly is.. People tend to know only the people on the block. As far as the hate??? Nah.. Not me.. Whose got time for that??? My words are just food for thought...
Just came across your blog and I'm loving it! LMFAO @ Cause all he cares about is that his wife still looks good in her thong....
HILARIOUS!
slish.. lol.. you're a funny dude.. i was with you til you told your bum bitch story and tried to flip it like women be fucking shit up.. nah man.. if two people make decent money and the wife stops working to take care of the family, i don't see a chick suddenly falling off and ruining the family finances.. that would just be a sloppy ass heffa.. nah man..
chivalry isn't really dead.. it's just that few men are chivalrous nowadays.. but some are still out there.. it's cute.. you'd be surprised at how much further men would get if they used a little chivalry now and then.. dumb ass negros.. lol
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So slish...inquiring minds( ok just me but) wanna know...is this your post with the most comments?
@ mznewagenda Actually Yeah...
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