Don't Be Afraid Be Happy
What is going on with you ladies in the new millenium. That a brotha can't spend time with a woman without her thinking he's moving too fast. You MUTHF@#$KAS should be happy things are moving at all. The amount of bullshit some of my male counterparts have put you through you should be on cloud nine when you meet a guy who is genuine, kind, and constistent.
When Mr charming finally comes knocking on your door why is it the first thing that comes out of your mouth is " I Think we see each other too much ," Im not ready to be in a relationship. Why do you call me everyday . Well !!!! Cause WE LIKE YOU, WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU!!!! I know I Know brothas have been doing this to women for the past decade , but do I or any brotha have to pay for the sins of others. Every man should be judged on his own merit not placed in a category because of what some jerk did to you.
Ladies let me let you in on a little secret. Men are not the insensitive uncaring creatures that the world makes us out to be. WE FEEL SHIT!!!. So if you to say to a man " I think we're spending too much time together and you've already given him the pussy " Thats like a slap right across his cheek. The only reason your saying it is because whats happening between you and that dude may be feeling too good. Causing you to lose control and weeee alll knoooow any woman that has been screwed over by some dude who pretended to love her and probably showed her his true self early on in the relationship , but she chose to ignore it. Vowed never to let a man have that kind of control over her again.
Get over it sista's. They are still good Black Men left on this planet. We come in all shapes, sizes and tax brackets. We're looking for the same things you are. Love, Family and Commitment.
When Mr charming finally comes knocking on your door why is it the first thing that comes out of your mouth is " I Think we see each other too much ," Im not ready to be in a relationship. Why do you call me everyday . Well !!!! Cause WE LIKE YOU, WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU!!!! I know I Know brothas have been doing this to women for the past decade , but do I or any brotha have to pay for the sins of others. Every man should be judged on his own merit not placed in a category because of what some jerk did to you.
Ladies let me let you in on a little secret. Men are not the insensitive uncaring creatures that the world makes us out to be. WE FEEL SHIT!!!. So if you to say to a man " I think we're spending too much time together and you've already given him the pussy " Thats like a slap right across his cheek. The only reason your saying it is because whats happening between you and that dude may be feeling too good. Causing you to lose control and weeee alll knoooow any woman that has been screwed over by some dude who pretended to love her and probably showed her his true self early on in the relationship , but she chose to ignore it. Vowed never to let a man have that kind of control over her again.
Get over it sista's. They are still good Black Men left on this planet. We come in all shapes, sizes and tax brackets. We're looking for the same things you are. Love, Family and Commitment.
posted by Mr.Slish at
3/05/2006 02:07:00 AM
12 Comments:
"They are still good Black Men left on this planet. We come in all shapes, sizes and tax brackets. We're looking for the same things you are. Love, Family and Commitment."
Amen to that! And you are so right about a man showing you what he is off the bat, and ladies ignoring it. Fool me once - shame on you, fool me twice - shame on me.
I'm out.
Sandra Dee.
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Oh and uh... about the whole she think you're moving to fast thing... Ask her if she is enjoying herself with you. If yes... then stop over thinking it and sit back and enjoy herself.
You got's to Man Up bruh!
Chi Boogie Brown
After the hurt and pain one goes through after a very emotional break-up everybody is afraid to be truly happy. Some women have paid for my ex's actions, unfair as it may be I think it is unavoidable. You try to do the best you can and hope that it turns out for the best
Slish: "The only reason your saying it is because whats happening between you and that dude may be feeling too good."
OR, maybe she's REALLLY just not feeling you.
Just a thought.
@ so wise sista. Women who are not feeling a brotha most times don't let a nigga get that far(meaning pop that coochie)
Men are not dense. We know when a sista is feeling us and when they're not.
My beef is don't let the past cloud your future. Sometimes when things are going well between a man and woman. The Woman will usually try and find something to slow things down due to fear of losing control of her heart.
When a woman has been through some rough shit she has tendency to try and control the outcome of the next relationship she gets into. ex: 1-3 Month rule on sex, No PDA, I'll see you when I have time mentality.
What if men were like that. Held onto shit from our past(not saying that we don't) But we try and put those things behind us. Cause we know the woman we're with is not the woman who caused us great pain.
All i'm saying is I know men out there have done some f##ked up shit but woman have too. Thats life.
Its time for yall to let go of those memories and start some new ones with a brotha who's feeling you.
Love involves trust and vunerability and being out of control. If you just came out of a situation where you were vunerable and then got hurt afterwards, the natural reaction is to try and shut it down and protect yourself a little more the next time. This response is good for feeling "safe", but bad for relationships.
As for the "popping that c**chie" part, sex is easy enough to do. The hard part is the emotional connection. Many women use sex as a bargaining tool...or as distraction to avoid intense emotional feelings altogether...or so I've heard...
Truly...I get what you're saying...but you make it sound like dudes are doing the sistas a favor by paying some "serious" attention.lol Even if she's feeling you, is it so hard to believe that maybe it really IS just about getting hers...ya know, just about the in and out?
Me personally, no matter how much I try to maintain control over a situation, if I'm really feeling him, and he's into me, I get impatient and say F the games. No holding back.
Slish: "What if men were like that. Held onto shit from our past(not saying that we don't) But we try and put those things behind us. Cause we know the woman we're with is not the woman who caused us great pain."
So if it's not holding a grudge from the past, then what is it exactly? I honestly wanna know. What makes guys "stall"? Or is there just never any intention of going any further...and if so, then why can't that be a woman's M.O. as well?
All right, nuff said Mr. Slish.
*wink*
@ so wise sista. You have a good point. For years men have been in control when it comes to how far a relationship goes. Today a sista has more options and the ability to say yay or nay. They don't need men the way they used to. You guys have eclipsed us in many ways.
Truth be told now that woman are doing the same shit to us we can't take it. We're now feeling the same hurt you guys been experiencing for decades.
Next topic.....
WOW...I love this post. Good job
@Slish. You said that women have eclipsed us(men) in many ways? What exactly do mean by that comment. I want to be sure I clearly understand before I go off on you.
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